Manifestation Success Stories Using the ‘To Be Magnetic’ Process
My first encounter with the spiritual concept of manifestation was at a Christian church in rural Idaho. I remember a woman in the congregation gleefully saying she wanted to drive a Mustang. This version of manifestation is more commonly known as the “prosperity gospel”—the idea that God wants you to be wealthy, and you just need to ask and trust.
I was skeptical at the time. But, as an evangelical Christian, I deeply believed that God had a purpose for my life, and I could gain access to the best choices to get me there through prayer.
In my 20s, I left organized religion, and I was surprised to rediscover spirituality in my 30s. Since then, I’ve been working to re-gain my adolescent trust in a benevolent God (well, Universe). I’ve read Gabrielle Bernstein, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Abraham Hicks, and A Course In Miracles, and have practiced Buddhism’s Vipassana meditation and attended a 10-day silent retreat.
It’s abundantly clear to me that all of these teachers are talking about the same thing, and it’s not too different than what I heard at that Idaho church.
A year ago, I signed up for To Be Magnetic’s manifestation community and workshops, and immediately found their manifestation vocabulary to help me not only make choices more confidently, but also to understand how I was able to get so many “answered prayers” as an evangelical Christian. I was actually a master manifestor, and didn’t know it.
I decided to share my greatest manifestation successes … that happened before I knew I was manifesting. I’m using the vocabulary from To Be Magnetic to break down why each one worked. My goal is not to drive a Mustang, but rather to do the work I was born to do, and receive support from the Universe in the process. I hope these examples will help you do the same.
The Manifestation Vocabulary of ‘To Be Magnetic’
Before I get into the stories, for the uninitiated, here’s a quick breakdown of the vocabulary used by To Be Magnetic, a brand that offers workshops and a community to help people learn manifestation. The vocabulary alone has helped me understand the ongoing dynamics of my life and how to make better decisions.
Authentic Code: This is a guideline of values that helps you decide if a home, job, or relationship is right for you.
Test: This is often a job offer or romantic partner that is close but not quite what you want. It’s like the marshmallow test on delayed gratification. If you can handle the uncertainty of saying “no,” you can get the bigger reward.
Trigger: A “test” in the form of an unpleasant experience that could cause you to question yourself.
Block: This is a low self-worth belief that keeps you chronically in the same maze. For example, I hadn’t had a boyfriend in my mid-20s and both believed and feared I never would.
Expander: This is a role model who has achieved something you want and has a similar enough background to you to prove you can do the same.
Aligned Action: This is how you demonstrate self-worth—by making real-world decisions that back up your values.
Ping: This is an intuitive idea or urge that may not make logical sense, but leads you around the impending traffic jam or figurative swamp, so to speak.
Rock Bottom: This is a shocking or destabilizing experience that forces you to reassess your situation.
Jumping Off a Cliff: This is the more active version of a Rock Bottom—you make a choice, perhaps moving to a new city or leaving a relationships, often when there is no proof you’ll succeed, but you know in your heart/gut that it is right for you and you’re willing to face any consequences.
Startup Job
One of the most miraculous experiences of my life was getting a job at an early-stage startup in San Diego.
Some backstory: I graduated from college in the middle of the “Great Recession” with a business degree, only to decide I wanted a job that was not office-bound and included writing (authentic code). I jumped off a cliff and took out student loans to go to graduate school for journalism in Chicago. On a phone call with a friend, I said I wanted to combine journalism and social media, and this friend laughed and said that social media is just a trend (trigger).
After graduating, I moved back to California and got a job at a magazine. A few months in, I needed to start making student loan payments. I calculated it out and realized I couldn’t pay for rent, student loans, food, and gas (not to mention needing other things). I looked for other jobs and cheaper apartments. I looked into living on a boat (!!). I bought a gas-powered scooter, thinking it would save me money on gas for my commute (aligned action).
I distinctly remember throwing my hands up, looking at my bank account, and thinking, there’s no way the math works (rock bottom). I asked God to help me because I had used up all my ideas.
Then, I got an email from that friend, who I hadn’t talked to, possibly since that phone call when I was still in grad school, and they knew someone who’d just raised funding for a startup. The startup was literally a social network for news. It was exactly what I’d said I wanted to do—and more.
I got the job. It was a 50% raise. I moved to San Diego. I got a cheaper apartment, and I kept driving my cute yellow scooter. There was actually scooter parking right by the office in downtown San Diego. This job was a financial life-saver, and more than that, the impeccable timing is proof there is a higher plan unfolding all around us.
NYC Move & Job
About six months into the startup job, I had a quarter-life crisis. I joked to myself that if I had everything I ever wanted at 25, what was I supposed to do with the remainder of my life? I remember stalking a former classmate on Facebook who had moved to New York (expander), and regretting that I hadn’t moved there right after graduate school instead of returning to my hometown in California.
Then, I got laid off (rock bottom).
I felt a lot of guilt that I’d left the magazine job, even though the salary was not sustainable. I knew from the previous job searches that my advanced degree in journalism did not match up with many roles in Southern California.
If I wanted to move to New York City, being in between jobs was the perfect opportunity. I knew one person in NYC—a classmate who had the same degree as me, who’d found a job there (expander).
I had unemployment, savings to cover about two months, and some sporadic freelance writing clients. If my funds went down to zero, I knew I could hop on a plane and come home—possibly ashamed, but still alive.
I started job searching and found a one-month sublet through my alumni network (aligned action). By the time I moved, I had interviews lined up, but none of those panned out (jumping off a cliff).
A job posting came in through my alumni network, and I knew immediately that it was for me (ping). I was about to leave the apartment but something in me knew that I needed to reply immediately. I remember typing the email, trying to express enthusiasm but not obsession (and a few months into working there, my boss mentioned as soon as she read that email, she knew I was the one she’d hire).
I actually got a second job offer the same week, that paid more but didn’t offer benefits, and had my choice (test). I kept in touch with that hiring manager and found out years later that the way things panned out, taking that role would have been a poor choice!
Boyfriend #1
The second greatest miracle of my life was meeting my first boyfriend. I was 27, living in NYC, and feared I was fundamentally flawed (a lot more about that in my memoir, Shameless).
My roommates were leaving the city and I was in between apartments (rock bottom). I had matched on a dating app with a guy I felt truly magnetically drawn to (ping) but who failed to commit to a date (test). (And I remember this detail because this person actually reappeared in my life later on!) I met a much-older guy at a meetup, went on a date, thought he had all the qualities I wanted but wasn’t quite attracted to him so I left early (test). I signed a lease on an apartment bedroom with no window, only a skylight (test fail!).
At work, I would often get antsy in the afternoon, yet felt guilty for getting up to go for a walk, but on on day, I did (ping). I was in the elevator with a coworker who I don’t usually talk to, but she was heading to the park as well, so I walked with her. I think she was actually telling me about her boyfriend (expander), and then she stopped to call her mom.
I kept walking until I found an open bench seat next to a guy wearing a bright turquoise shirt. I turned down his first date request because a friend was coming over that night to help me take apart my Ikea bed (test). We went out a few times, and for our third date, he joined me at a startup hackathon (aligned action). This part is interesting because in To Be Magnetic’s process, love and money are connected. At this time, I was in an apartment transition and I was actively learning programming to create a book recommendations app, and I chose to prioritize the hackathon over the relationship (test) and actually got both, because he came with me to the hackathon and being a startup founder himself, inspired me as an expander.
He fit all the qualities of a relationship I was desiring at that time, and no dating app required!
How To Get Manifestation Results
According to To Be Magnetic, the process requires three steps: Unblocking, Expanding, and Aligned Action. In reviewing my own life examples, I’ve found this to be true. You can see the expanders and aligned action in the examples above, but what about unblocking? Remember, unblocking is simply believing something is possible.
In the To Be Magnetic method, unblocking happens through a combination of journal prompts and meditations called Deep Imaginings (DIs).
This is the most difficult part, because it involves facing the ways we hold ourselves back in life. I’ve uncovered both self-sabotage and coping mechanisms.
In the three stories shared above, I didn’t have the benefit of a manifestation method, but I was unblocked. Looking at the ways I unblock on my own helps me with my current manifestations.
In both the boyfriend and New York job examples, I unblocked by “jumping off a cliff.” It’s almost like I negotiated with the universe by making a change based on a new desire.
Let me explain. First, I had been frustrated in dating and believed the pool of Christian single men was too limited, so when my religious beliefs shifted and I decided to date outside of Christianity, I was able to believe it was possible for me to find a partner. And I did. With the jobs, I also had a belief that there were not enough jobs fitting my experience in California, so when I moved to New York, I believed I would find something great—and did.
The startup job example is a little more magical. This is a time when I truly surrendered. Every plan to find a job or change my expenses had failed. I was out of ideas, but had peace about it. I prayed. In this case I didn’t actually have confidence a job would show up out of the blue like it did, but I believed I would be okay. In To Be Magnetic, this is called facing the “worst case scenario.”
Conclusion
Through learning the To Be Magnetic process, I’ve been able to review the best and worst moments of my life and understand what mindset and action led to success. Each example builds on the one before it. Each job or relationship led me to refining or updating what I want, and sending me off with new skills.
One theme I noticed in my own life is that when I allow myself to feel a desire, but don’t act on it, the Universe gives me a push (the lay-off is a great example of that). The second theme I’ve noticed is that the romantic relationships come when I’m in the midst of a deeply purposeful side project. I met another wonderful boyfriend the same month that I published Shameless, and through a niche dating website (ping!).
These learnings help me make the best choices around the things I’m currently manifesting.
To Be Magnetic Podcast
If you are interested in learning more about the manifestation process of To Be Magnetic, I recommend browsing their weekly podcast for anything that sounds relevant to you.
The playlist below is a selection of episodes that go deep on the concepts I’ve highlighted in this blog post.
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